17 Jan 2008

It's All In The Balance

Benjamin will on rare occasions pipe up that he's hungry, but Christopher never, ever asks for food. When I mention this to people, they always try to console me with a "It'll get better" or "They'll tell you when they're really hungry." Well, it's been 11 years, and I'm still waiting.

In addition, they're picky, picky, picky eaters, and they like completely different things. Christopher could live on salmon alone, while Benjamin would be quite happy with only rice and ketchup (don't bother - I know). Behold what was left when the protein lover and the carboholic had "enjoyed" dinner a couple of nights ago:



Does it still count as a balanced meal if I divvy up the different food groups between the boys?

48 comments:

Chantal said...

I count any food that crosses their lips. Regardless of what it is. Otherwise I would just worry all the time (which I do anyway).

melissious said...

Oh my gosh, that's AWESOME! I can absolutely relate... thanks for crashing my hopes that "it will get better!" My one 3 yr old twin eats like a champ, but the other (teeny, tiny) one only wants bread & butter. Seriously. Every meal. I tell him he can have that WHEN HE'S DONE (which RARELY happens.) I usually give in because I want him to eat SOMEthing! You'd think identical twins would like the same things, but nope. My oldest & youngest eat pretty well, but they all have specific things they like. One HAS to have ketchup with everything, the other will have a fit if there's a drop of ketchup on his plate, etc. That picture is hilarious. :)

Suzanne said...

I'm right there with you. Are you telling me that they don't outgrow this ridiculous pickiness? Don't tell me that.

kimmy said...

Hi Heidi!

Oh yeah, it definitely counts. And, ketchup is one of the main food groups for children.

Luckliy, my kids aren't picky eaters. They both love fruits. My son is mostly a meat and potatos kind of kid and my daughter loves vegetables. She WILL NOT eat ketchup and she is thrilled when make brussel sprouts!

Have a nice day!

Kimmy

LoriD said...

My kids are, thankfully, not picky eaters, but they do have days where I wonder if they've eaten anything at all. That's awesome that they could share one plate of food and each be satisfied!

suburbancorrespondent said...

We do the same - Brian tries to pass all his green beans or green peppers or whatever offending vegetable shows up in a stew or stirfry to Rachel, and she passes him her extra beef or chicken.

jennwa said...

It counts, if you cooked the different food groups. That is all you can do.
We would all love our kids to eat a balanced meals with lots of vegetables, but I bet most of us are just like you. We are just happy if they eat one healthy thing a meal.

Mrs. G. said...

ABSOLUTELY. When one of my kids was younger, he went through a period where he only wanted white-as in snow white-foods.

Don Mills Diva said...

That looks like a good, healthy meal to me. Luckily Graham is like a hoover at this point with all food - let's hope it lasts.

BTW - those photos in my blog are from last weekend - it was 10 degrees C!

Misty said...

Hey, if you figure out how to make picky kids have a balanced diet, make sure you clue me in.

Then I shall steal your idea and make millions!!!

AAAhahahaha!

Dawn said...

Awww, what a team!

Julie Pippert said...

LOL---WITH you not AT. I promise!

Isn't food and food pickiness the thing that can make you laugh and/or bang your head against the wall?

I employ the Duck Principle: if they look healthy and act healthy they are probably healthy!

Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

They look so cute sitting there with their candle and everything!
I totally think it counts! My 2 blond boys are pretty picky. The little one worships the older one, so he has picked up his big brother's food issues. ugh.
I feel for you.

Kathryn said...

But do they drink milk? My mom always said that you don't have to worry about all the foods a kid won't eat if they are drinking a lot of milk. I have no idea if that is true, but it sounds good. ;)

slouching mom said...

OMG! I've got a carboholic too! Now I know what to call Ben!

Sigh.

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

Connor eats nothing and at 14 still doesnt ask for food. Not every kid grows out of it!

Hallie

another good thing said...

HAH! They say we as Moms are only responsible for providing the balanced healthy meals, not making kids ingest them!
My nephew went for years (from age 5-11) on only carbs-- mostly bread and butter- he actually made himself sick- was ordered by doc to go on a special diet and everything.
Just now at 16 he visited and when he went back home my sister called and asked what I had done to him? She said he told her he wanted to eat healthier and could she make him a salad like Aunt Linda's?
there is hope. ;-)

Beth said...

They look healthy and happy to me so you must be doing something right!

Amy Y said...

That is hilarious!
My kids don't like mashed potatoes. Even as babies... And Gavin didn't like mac n cheese until recently. Weirdos! ;)

Cathy said...

Of course it counts! If it didn't, we'd drive ourselves batty.

Here's what gets me -- neither of my kids likes cheese.

CHEESE!

How can you not like cheese?

I'm at a loss.

Kyla said...

I'm gonna say YES. It does count. I feel your pain, acutely.

Ree said...

Jack Spratt could eat no fat,
his wife could eat no lean,
and so between the two of them,
they licked the platter clean!

LaskiGal said...

Wow! What adorable boys! I loved all the pics! Although I can wait until my five-month-old it their age, I also look forward to all the hilariousness (is this a word? Really?) he'll bring!

Rima said...

Perhaps a spaghetti smoothie might do the trick? I hear that some people (Jessica Seinfelt *cough*) are able to get their children to eat nutritiously by disguising various food products ;)

But in all seriousness, we got a juicer for Christmas and now my kids are drinking all kinds of crazy vegetables they wouldn't have touched with a ten foot pole before AND THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW IT!!! Just add some apples and oranges in the mix, and you could get them to drink brussel sprouts.

Aliki2006 said...

How hilarious--one with sauce, the other without, and never the two shall meet, right?!

You know I feel you on the eating thing--it will be the end of me.

the dragonfly said...

Funny!!

I wonder how the Little Mister will be as far as food....right now he *loves* everything!

Melanie said...

On the positive side: your boys apparently have very strong survival instincts. Some evolutionary biologists think that toddler/kid finickiness is a hold-over from a cave-kid instinct to avoid colorful, unknown foods (poisonous plants or berries) while foraging.

So, you know, there's THAT. :)

Queeny said...

Oh man, do I know what you mean. Oddly enough, my daughter eats heartier than my two boys. I think it's because she nursed the longest. Go figure.

Kellan said...

What a cute picture - aren't they just sometimes more work than you think you can stand for one more minute??!! (HA) It's just food - for goodness sake. One day - they will be big and tall and eating everything in the fridge and pantry and you won't be able to keep it stocked full enough!! I'm not sure that will be any easier to deal with. We can't win. They are cute boys!!!

You are my friend - I am honored to know you - you know that!! Thanks for everything and I wish you lived right next door! See you later, Heidi. Kellan

carrie said...

You know why I come here Heidi? Other than your beautiful photos of places I'll never see in person and your awesome story-telling?

I come here to feel NORMAL. McRae and Wyatt couldn't be more different either when it comes to food. I seriously question how they could possibly be related at times. McRae would eat only vegetables and fruit and be as happy as a clam, plus you'd have to remind him to eat. Wyatt, he'll eat anything, especially if it's fried or has cheese in it.

Maybe my daughter will be the normal one? You think?

Jenn said...

Dude, at this point, anything that I can get down her counts.

She's in a, "Me don't like that" stage.

And I'm in a, "But you liked it yesterday" stage.

Jennifer (Jen on the Edge) said...

Neither one of mine will touch hamburgers or hot dogs, and one of those two thinks chicken strips/fingers are foul beyond belief. Eating when we travel is a real joy, I tell you.

gmcountrymama said...

My son used to ask for Cheetos for breakfast and each morning I would of course say no way. Now he asks for cookies sometimes and I still say no. Gotta give him credit for trying. He eats lots of fruit but I have to bribe my daughter with dessert for her to eat her veggies.

Victoria said...

Ha! Hilarious photo!!! I've got one rather picky one (but we know what he likes and just try to work around it without much trouble) and one who will eat everything, anytime if you don't keep it locked up.

Oh, and my Boy proclaimed he wanted to go vegetarian last week. Ack!

Lainey-Paney said...

I agree...I count anything that crosses Gage's lips as a little blessing!
He's so tall & skinny.
Tall for his age.
Average weight for his age.
Underweight for his height.

UGH.
He routinely asks for candy...but, never seems to ask for broccoli...hmmm...

Lainey-Paney said...

Oh, and he wants ketchup w/ everything, or by itself.

My Ice Cream Diary said...

You've just described the typical dinner situation between my two boys. One eats his veggies first and has to be coerced to eat any meat, and vice versa. Sometimes I let them trade plates, sometimes I make them suffer. Glad to know I'm not alone.

Liesl said...

It has to count, because if it doesn't, us moms of picky eaters will need a psych referral. Just last week Liam ate a bowl of ketchup. A small one, but still, it was most of his dinner.

kim-d said...

At one point as a kid, Todd would only eat hot dogs--no bun, no ketchup--just cut-up hot dogs. According to the pediatrician, at that time (which WAS back in the dark ages), "if he wants to eat hot dogs, feed him hot dogs--he'll move on at some point." And sure enough, he did. And while he's still picky, he's in his 30s, so all turned out okay :)! It'll be interesting to see what happens to your boys when they hit the teen years. I remember when my brother, who at one point ate only Campbell's canned chicken noodle soup and peanut butter sandwiches, turned 13, he started eating everything that wasn't nailed down, and in mass quantities! Amazing transformation. Of course, he also needed new pants and shoes every two weeks! HAHA! There's still plenty of time for your guys :)!

MamaGeek said...

It totally counts. This is one of those things I'm already scared of and hope I totally skip this phase!

familymclean said...

That is tooo funny! I love your blue type, this rocks.
I wish I could spend a day in your house, what a riot!

Mountain Dweller said...

I think that "food exchange" must go on in quite a lot of households. I can't really see a problem myself!

Karen MEG said...

G basically eats 5 foods- Johnsonville greasy sausage, toast, mac & cheese, milk and yogurt drinks. That's IT!!!! So I've resorted to slipping fruit into her drinks.
Liam, however, has a hollow leg. He's outgrown McD's happy meals, so had the Filet meal for a snack yesterday, then ate dinner with us an hour later.
I love that candlelit dinner, so sweet! It's awesome that they're so close, Heidi. Love it.

shay said...

yup! Does for me!
I have the same problem. I'm really hoping that they find some hidden benefit to Lipton noodle soup lol.

Honestly my brother is 33 and he's still like this so (picky picky picky) and he just doesn't eat if he doesn't like it. No amount of hunger helps...sorry to ruin it for everyone but I'm pretty realistic about this one:)

I try to look at a whole week or month to see if they get their nutritional needs met, rather than a day:)

Kellan said...

Hey Heidi - hope you have a good weekend. See you - Kellan

katiez said...

I'm pretty sure there has not been a case of a child starving to death because of pickiness... I go with the 'when they get hungry enough, they'll eat' theory.
The 'think of all the starving kids in (insert country here) probablly doesn't work anymore either...

Stomper Girl said...

I share your picky eater pain. although in many ways I secretly sympathise with them because I am rather picky myself.

Steph said...

Really? They don't get over it as they get older? No hopes?

(Love the picture!)